Sometimes the pressures all around us just really are too much and we become overloaded and overwhelmed. We need to learn to recognize when we are hitting our limit and take action to keep from overloading.
What can we do? The very fist thing we do is simply stop. Stop whatever we are doing and take a really deep breath. Now think...what can I do to help me feel better? Is there someone who we can talk to who will listen and understand and not judge us? If we have someone like this that is great, we all NEED someone like this in our lives. We can reach out to this person and let them help share our load.
If we don't have anyone or we can't get in touch with anyone or we really don't feel like talking, we can take out a pen and paper and write it all out. Don't hold back, write whatever we are feeling, seeing, hearing, anything that is effecting us in a negative manner, write it all out. Once we have it all out then we can decide whether we want to keep it for future reference or destroy it. Sometimes we feel the need to keep it and take it out and look at it again to see what there is to learn from it and other times we may feel the need to destroy it and in a sense release ourselves from it all. We will know it feels we need to do with what we've written.
They key is to not hold all of this in or think that we have to tough it out alone. We want to release some of our inner pressure and get our negative thoughts out so that we don't burst. Once we have them out we may be able to see thing more clearly and be able to recenter ourselves.
We do need to be very careful though that we aren't constantly using others as a dumping ground for only our negative thoughts, this is not what our friends and supporters are for and it would not be beneficial for them. We might want to consider writing our feelings out before reaching out to a friend just to see what is left that needs to be cleared.
It might be very beneficial for us to unplug for a little while. Take some quiet time alone to reconnect with ourselves and get away from all of the outside stimulus we deal with on a day to day basis. Take a little time to focus only on our own needs. Find someway to spend some time alone.
This might sound funny, but when my kids were little I used to mow the lawn to get my quiet time. They knew they couldn't come near the riding mower and I had nothing to do while mowing but enjoy my quiet time and do some inner reflecting. I always felt recharged after mowing the lawn. Do whatever works for you, take a little drive, go for a walk, hide in the shower or soak in the tub, clear out a little spot in your garage or basement where you can go just to tinker on something. Anything that gives you a little bit of peace and quiet time.
We sometimes feel ourselves under a lot of pressure and we need to learn to keep ourselves from exploding. We won't be any good to anyone if we don't take care of ourselves first.
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