I am becoming more and more aware that there are many people, even so called advanced souls, who have difficulty listening to others when it comes to working with groups. They have set in their head what their purpose or role is and they cast aside anything anyone presents that doesn't fit into their molded idea of what is meant to be.
Being focused on our intentions is very important, but we must remain opened to listening to what others are telling us. None of us have a 360 degree of all situations or all of the answers. We need others to help us see things from varying angles and to help mirror to us views we may be missing. If we are blinded by only our own guidance or intentions and believe that only WE have all of the answers, then it would seem we are missing the whole concept of Oneness. We aren't great communicators, we are just great speakers.
If someone is constantly speaking over others or casting aside the point of view of others something is off. People who need to preach to us or talk over us are not truly trying to connect with us or communicate with us, they are simply advertising their self and their point of view. Some one who is truly focused and interested in connecting with others will listen intently to others as they speak and will have the desire to explore different points of view, they won't just be excellent at speaking.
The thing is we can't make someone listen to us or see our point of view, we can only offer it and then let it go. Either someone is going to be opened to other point of views and listen or they aren't, it's their choice.
When we feel no one is listening we may feel like we should just stop speaking, but we shouldn't because sometimes others are listening to what we say, they just aren't really hearing it and aren't fully ready to accept what we've said just yet. Eventually what we've said may suddenly sink in or make sense to them or they may share it with someone else and it may make sense to them. Aside from that when we express an idea it puts it out there for the world to find.
The key to expressing ourselves and being heard often lies in finding a way to speak to others using words and styles of speech they will understand. We speak to others at their level. There isn't much point in speaking to others in a manner they can't understand or at a level that goes above their heads or speaks down to them.
If we are truly interested in having others listen to us, we will listen to them and then we will speak to them in a manner they can relate to. They will hear what they are meant to hear when they are ready to hear it. It's as simple as that.
If we feel something needs to be said and we speak to people from our heart, at a level they can relate to, then we can let it go trusting eventually, in some manner, someone will hear what we've expressed and it will have the impact it was meant to have.
The key to true communication is to really listen with interest, speak from our hearts and then let go and trust.
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