Choices

Let's face it, people are going to let us down, nobody is going to live up to all of our expectations, people are going to make choices we totally do not agree with. What can we do about this?  Nothing.  We have no control over anyone but our self.

Upon our arrival at birth each of us has been given a wondrous gift.  It's called free will and we all have it and we can all use it.   Would life be easier without freewill?  I don't know, but I do know it would be a lot less interesting.  Not only that, if we didn't have choices to make how would we learn our lessons?  If we were just handed a script to follow it'd be like being handed a test with all of the answers filled in.  What would we learn from that?

Think back over your life, from what situations did you learn your most important lessons?  For most of us, if we are honest, it's been through our difficult times.  The times we make "bad" choices often are the ones that teach us the most.  It seems that sometimes we have the need to experience some really difficult things to really learn a deep lesson.  Maybe it's those deep, difficult lessons that indicate we are becoming really advanced as a soul.

Think about this, we usually look at someone who makes what seem like really "bad" choices and think, what are they thinking, how could they be so stupid or irresponsible.  But what if these people have decided to learn some really HUGE lessons in a way that they will sink in and have a soul changing, perhaps soul cleansing effect on them.  What if in order to really advance our souls and to be able to fully appreciate all aspects of life we would choose to experience some really dark situations.  If this were true it  would help us to look at others differently and perhaps find more understanding for them.  More importantly it could help us to look at ourselves in a different light and not be so hard on ourselves.

What if we were to look at all of our experiences and those of the people around us as choices that we've made in order to learn some lesson.  What if we realize that no one is judging us, we are merely being observed as we learn and perhaps even guided with a sense of love.  Wouldn't that be interesting?  Wouldn't that help us to be able to let go of some of our guilt and our judgments of ourselves and others?

We can think whatever we want about this idea, it's our choice, that's the beauty of free will.  If we don't agree with this or it doesn't feel right with us we can choose to believe something totally different, it's our choice.  The key is realizing that we all have choices and not judging our choices whatever they may be.