Sometimes I think we take life way to seriously and forget that it's OK, even good to find some joy along the way. We forget to take time to stop and relax and really take a look around us at the beauty of the world. We get so busy taking care of others and being concerned about others that we forget to take care of ourselves.
It seems important to remember that part of being of service to others is remembering to take care of ourselves. How can we help others if we wear ourselves down and have nothing left to give?
Stop right now and ask yourself, what did I do to take care of myself today? Did I eat right? Did I drink enough water? Did I get some exercise? Do I get enough sleep? Did I do something that gives me joy?
Taking care of yourself is not being selfish, unless of course you only ever focus on your own needs and no one else's, but if that were the case, I doubt you would be reading my words.
The next time you are making out your to do list for the day, don't forget to put, take care of myself at the top so you don't forget and don't scratch it off until the end of the day when you are sure that you really have taken care of yourself. That's not an order, just a suggestion from someone who often forgets to take care of herself and needs a lot of reminders too!
Friday, March 9, 2012
Monday, March 5, 2012
Responsibility
Responsibility seems like such a heavy word. As a young child our lives are pretty responsibility free. The only thing we really "have" to do is eat. Someone takes care of everything for us, even providing the food, we are simply here to learn and grow and take in information.
But it seems with learning, growth and age comes responsibility. Gradually as we gain knowledge of how to function in a body we are expected to take more responsibility for it. We are expected to use our hands to hold our own bottle, to learn to use our legs to crawl then walk, to use our voice to speak and to go potty in the potty. We slowly learn how to control our body and use it to take responsibility for ourselves. Normally we find each new responsibility exciting and fun. We are pretty happy and care free as long as we have food, shelter and love.
As we get older though, we are also expected to learn how to function and fit into society. Our parents or caregivers are responsible for teaching us what is acceptable, they teach us what is right and what is wrong. Our carefree days are beginning to draw to a close it seems.
Suddenly we are no longer expected to just be happy, we are expected to pay attention to others and see if they are happy, we are learning to observe what kind of response our actions receive and if they are right or wrong by societies standards. Something that fits in to the norm of right behavior often receives praise and happy responses. Something that is not acceptable often receives admonishments and stern responses. We learn if I do this, the response will be this, if I do that, the response will be that. We learn to observe and care about others.
Eventually we become responsible adults who are aware of those around us and can observe how our actions are received and accepted. We are aware of what effect we have on our surroundings. We understand that we are responsible for ourselves and our actions.
But who else are we responsible for and to what extent? Are we only responsible for ourselves or are we responsible for those around us?
As a grown child we are responsible for loving and respecting our parents, but we learn to understand that we are now responsible for our own selves and our own actions and choices, we can no longer hold our parents responsible for what we choose to do. As and adult we are no longer fully connected to them or under their "control" we are responsible for ourselves.
As a spouse or partner we are responsible for nurturing our relationship with another person, we become one with another while maintaining our own self within the union. If we want our relationship to flourish we have to put time and effort into it, we can't just do our own thing all of the time or the relationship will not be sustained. We have to be aware of how our actions impact those we are in a relationship with. We become accountable to our partner, but we are only responsible for ourselves, we really have no control over anyone elses actions or responses.
As a parent we understand that we've brought a helpless, innocent being into the world who we need to love, care for and guide. We are responsible for teaching them how to use their bodies and control themselves, our ultimate goal as a parent is to teach them to be responsible for themselves and considerate of others. It seems we are meant to love and guide them while seeing that they do not belong to us. We learn the importance of providing guidance and teaching them to be responsible as well as the importance of letting them go so that they can be their own person.
It seems we often become confused and think that we are somehow responsible for others. We have difficulty understanding that we can't make others happy, that we can't force others to see our point of view, that we can't do the work others are meant to do. We also can tend to forget that others are not responsible for making us happy, that everyone has their own point of view and that we all have our own "work" to do in this world. We are all connected and need to be considerate of each other, but we are only responsible for our self and our own actions or lack of actions in any situation.
It seems it is very important to focus on ourselves and what WE are doing rather than focusing on others and trying to take responsibility for them or expecting them take responsibility for us.
Perhaps if we let go of the idea of being responsible for everyone else and we take care of our own responsibilities, our lives will become somewhat carefree again?
But it seems with learning, growth and age comes responsibility. Gradually as we gain knowledge of how to function in a body we are expected to take more responsibility for it. We are expected to use our hands to hold our own bottle, to learn to use our legs to crawl then walk, to use our voice to speak and to go potty in the potty. We slowly learn how to control our body and use it to take responsibility for ourselves. Normally we find each new responsibility exciting and fun. We are pretty happy and care free as long as we have food, shelter and love.
As we get older though, we are also expected to learn how to function and fit into society. Our parents or caregivers are responsible for teaching us what is acceptable, they teach us what is right and what is wrong. Our carefree days are beginning to draw to a close it seems.
Suddenly we are no longer expected to just be happy, we are expected to pay attention to others and see if they are happy, we are learning to observe what kind of response our actions receive and if they are right or wrong by societies standards. Something that fits in to the norm of right behavior often receives praise and happy responses. Something that is not acceptable often receives admonishments and stern responses. We learn if I do this, the response will be this, if I do that, the response will be that. We learn to observe and care about others.
Eventually we become responsible adults who are aware of those around us and can observe how our actions are received and accepted. We are aware of what effect we have on our surroundings. We understand that we are responsible for ourselves and our actions.
But who else are we responsible for and to what extent? Are we only responsible for ourselves or are we responsible for those around us?
As a grown child we are responsible for loving and respecting our parents, but we learn to understand that we are now responsible for our own selves and our own actions and choices, we can no longer hold our parents responsible for what we choose to do. As and adult we are no longer fully connected to them or under their "control" we are responsible for ourselves.
As a spouse or partner we are responsible for nurturing our relationship with another person, we become one with another while maintaining our own self within the union. If we want our relationship to flourish we have to put time and effort into it, we can't just do our own thing all of the time or the relationship will not be sustained. We have to be aware of how our actions impact those we are in a relationship with. We become accountable to our partner, but we are only responsible for ourselves, we really have no control over anyone elses actions or responses.
As a parent we understand that we've brought a helpless, innocent being into the world who we need to love, care for and guide. We are responsible for teaching them how to use their bodies and control themselves, our ultimate goal as a parent is to teach them to be responsible for themselves and considerate of others. It seems we are meant to love and guide them while seeing that they do not belong to us. We learn the importance of providing guidance and teaching them to be responsible as well as the importance of letting them go so that they can be their own person.
It seems we often become confused and think that we are somehow responsible for others. We have difficulty understanding that we can't make others happy, that we can't force others to see our point of view, that we can't do the work others are meant to do. We also can tend to forget that others are not responsible for making us happy, that everyone has their own point of view and that we all have our own "work" to do in this world. We are all connected and need to be considerate of each other, but we are only responsible for our self and our own actions or lack of actions in any situation.
It seems it is very important to focus on ourselves and what WE are doing rather than focusing on others and trying to take responsibility for them or expecting them take responsibility for us.
Perhaps if we let go of the idea of being responsible for everyone else and we take care of our own responsibilities, our lives will become somewhat carefree again?
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Look Before You Leap
Being willing to let go of our tight grasp on our map and go with the flow does not mean that we put on a blind fold and leap. Using our senses to look, listen and feel are part of what keeps us from falling off the road. It doesn't seem to me that we are meant to leap without looking.
Our map is a tool that we've been given to help us understand where we want to go and how we can get there. It is not our only tool, we have many tools to use to help us find the safest, most direct or most scenic route. Our map as well as our senses, both physical and intuitive, and those who offer us directions are tools too.
Sometimes the trip is scary and we want to just shut off our senses, we don't want to see or hear about any of the bad accidents or know about the big bend in the road up ahead. We might even want to just sit back and have someone else drive us down the road. There is nothing wrong with having someone help guide us in our driving, but it seems we are meant to drive ourselves and not sit back waiting for others to do all the work of getting us to our destination.
Putting blinders on and not taking responsibility for our trip might lead to us falling completely off of the road that we are meant to be on. After all, the route someone else might take could be perfect for them, but is it perfect for us? Is it the route everyone needs to or has to take?
It seems if we want to get to where we feel we are intended to be, we need to take off our blind folds, look before we leap and take a hold of the wheel. Going with the flow does not mean blindly and helplessly floating along, it seems to mean determining where we intend to go, looking at our map and then relaxing and using our tools to make the journey. Our tools include our own vision, intuition and understandings as well as the guidance and direction offered by others who may have been headed to the same destination we would like to get to.
Letting go of the idea that we have to have complete control and have to follow a specific route on the map does not mean blindly leaping, it means looking before we leap, but being opened to leaping even when we know the path may not be completely clear to us or what we had envisioned.
We may not reach our destination without some bumps in the road or detours along the way. The route we thought would be the most direct and easiest to use might not be the one we end up on, but if we are paying attention and opened to going with the flow, we will get where we are meant to go and if we are relaxed about it all, we may even enjoy the trip.
Our map is a tool that we've been given to help us understand where we want to go and how we can get there. It is not our only tool, we have many tools to use to help us find the safest, most direct or most scenic route. Our map as well as our senses, both physical and intuitive, and those who offer us directions are tools too.
Sometimes the trip is scary and we want to just shut off our senses, we don't want to see or hear about any of the bad accidents or know about the big bend in the road up ahead. We might even want to just sit back and have someone else drive us down the road. There is nothing wrong with having someone help guide us in our driving, but it seems we are meant to drive ourselves and not sit back waiting for others to do all the work of getting us to our destination.
Putting blinders on and not taking responsibility for our trip might lead to us falling completely off of the road that we are meant to be on. After all, the route someone else might take could be perfect for them, but is it perfect for us? Is it the route everyone needs to or has to take?
It seems if we want to get to where we feel we are intended to be, we need to take off our blind folds, look before we leap and take a hold of the wheel. Going with the flow does not mean blindly and helplessly floating along, it seems to mean determining where we intend to go, looking at our map and then relaxing and using our tools to make the journey. Our tools include our own vision, intuition and understandings as well as the guidance and direction offered by others who may have been headed to the same destination we would like to get to.
Letting go of the idea that we have to have complete control and have to follow a specific route on the map does not mean blindly leaping, it means looking before we leap, but being opened to leaping even when we know the path may not be completely clear to us or what we had envisioned.
We may not reach our destination without some bumps in the road or detours along the way. The route we thought would be the most direct and easiest to use might not be the one we end up on, but if we are paying attention and opened to going with the flow, we will get where we are meant to go and if we are relaxed about it all, we may even enjoy the trip.
Monday, February 27, 2012
Losing the Map
I used to be an organizer, a planner, someone who had to have things all mapped out so I could see where I was going and what was to be expected along the way.
I suppose for me this tendency to be a planner and this need to "know" what all of the steps were and how things would unfold came from having been through a tornado at the age of two and having my dad suddenly pass away when I was only four. I guess I needed and craved the stability and control having things all planned out seemed to offer. I didn't want any surprises along the way or unexpected things popping up, so I learned to plan and analyze situations from many angles.
There's nothing wrong with that, but I learned the hard way that no matter how we organize, plan and map, no matter what angle we look at things, things happen in ways we could not imagine or foresee. If we are stuck on following our plan and clinging to our map, hitting an unforeseen bump in the road or coming upon a detour can be an earth shattering experience. Having someone expect us to set our map aside and just go with the flow can seem ridiculously unsafe and frightening.
What happened to help me let go and learn to go with the flow? Life happened with all it's messy twists and turns. As each totally unexpected thing happened I seemed to lose a little bit of myself. I was falling apart and frantic. I saw that nothing could be controlled or counted on, our world is constantly changing, things don't always fit into our plan, stuff happens that we have no control over and we have to either go with the flow or get sucked under and drown.
My experience nearly took me down, but eventually I learned to let go of my big expectations of how things should be and how they should go and I started to open up more to just going with whatever happened. This didn't mean giving up completely on planning, it meant that I came to the understanding that I can make a plan, but I have to be flexible and go with whatever happens along the way that does not go with my plan. I have to be opened to the idea that there are many different options, paths and views on this road we call life. We might have a map of where we want to go, but there could be detours, road blocks and alternate routes along our path.
The interesting thing is that once I learned to let go of my map and go with the flow, I started having new and exciting experiences. I started seeing things from different view points and opened up to new ideas and ways of looking at things. I also opened up more to people and began to see that there is not one single "right" path or way of looking at things or doing things. I learned that my plans did not have to be set in stone and there would be many choices to make as I lived my life.
Most importantly I began to relax, stop being so anxious about what was going to happen and let go of worrying if I'd taken the right road or not. I realized that I didn't have to be in control of everything to be "safe" and I could make it through whatever came along much easier if I relaxed. I actually began to enjoy life more, I felt less stress, more joy and more freedom. Eventually I began to become healthier because my body was no longer in a constant state of stress and worry about how things were going to go.
I came to the understanding that sometimes the most important thing we can do in life is not to plan and map things out, but to simply show up and be present on the journey.
I suppose for me this tendency to be a planner and this need to "know" what all of the steps were and how things would unfold came from having been through a tornado at the age of two and having my dad suddenly pass away when I was only four. I guess I needed and craved the stability and control having things all planned out seemed to offer. I didn't want any surprises along the way or unexpected things popping up, so I learned to plan and analyze situations from many angles.
There's nothing wrong with that, but I learned the hard way that no matter how we organize, plan and map, no matter what angle we look at things, things happen in ways we could not imagine or foresee. If we are stuck on following our plan and clinging to our map, hitting an unforeseen bump in the road or coming upon a detour can be an earth shattering experience. Having someone expect us to set our map aside and just go with the flow can seem ridiculously unsafe and frightening.
What happened to help me let go and learn to go with the flow? Life happened with all it's messy twists and turns. As each totally unexpected thing happened I seemed to lose a little bit of myself. I was falling apart and frantic. I saw that nothing could be controlled or counted on, our world is constantly changing, things don't always fit into our plan, stuff happens that we have no control over and we have to either go with the flow or get sucked under and drown.
My experience nearly took me down, but eventually I learned to let go of my big expectations of how things should be and how they should go and I started to open up more to just going with whatever happened. This didn't mean giving up completely on planning, it meant that I came to the understanding that I can make a plan, but I have to be flexible and go with whatever happens along the way that does not go with my plan. I have to be opened to the idea that there are many different options, paths and views on this road we call life. We might have a map of where we want to go, but there could be detours, road blocks and alternate routes along our path.
The interesting thing is that once I learned to let go of my map and go with the flow, I started having new and exciting experiences. I started seeing things from different view points and opened up to new ideas and ways of looking at things. I also opened up more to people and began to see that there is not one single "right" path or way of looking at things or doing things. I learned that my plans did not have to be set in stone and there would be many choices to make as I lived my life.
Most importantly I began to relax, stop being so anxious about what was going to happen and let go of worrying if I'd taken the right road or not. I realized that I didn't have to be in control of everything to be "safe" and I could make it through whatever came along much easier if I relaxed. I actually began to enjoy life more, I felt less stress, more joy and more freedom. Eventually I began to become healthier because my body was no longer in a constant state of stress and worry about how things were going to go.
I came to the understanding that sometimes the most important thing we can do in life is not to plan and map things out, but to simply show up and be present on the journey.
Monday, February 20, 2012
Withdrawal
I've noticed that when things get tough I have a tendency to want to retreat and withdraw from the world.
Sometimes we really need to step back, take a deep breath and regroup so that we can quiet our minds and focus, but if we retreat for too long or try to withdraw completely, this can cause problems.
When we shut ourselves off from everyone it is easy to sort of fall into a pit. Without input from others our thoughts may become off balanced and very clouded. If we withdraw because we are tense, our tension may only build causing all kinds of problems mentally and physically.
We seem to need others to help keep us balanced by offering differing views to us. Being in relationship with others can also provide a tension release valve by allowing us to express ourselves. Having someone who will really listen to us can be very important and beneficial to us. Being in relationships with others can help keep us balanced and healthy.
Of course, the relationship itself needs to be balanced, we can't constantly dump all of our stuff on someone and not listen to them or offer support for them. We also can't always be the dumping station for others, we need and deserve a relief valve where we can relieve our tension by dumping stuff too.
It seems when the pressure of the world gets to be too much, retreating and take a few steps back is a wise choice, but stepping too far back and totally withdrawing can be detrimental to our mental health and well being.
Even solitary, introverts need outside contact and relationships to help keep them healthy.
Sometimes we really need to step back, take a deep breath and regroup so that we can quiet our minds and focus, but if we retreat for too long or try to withdraw completely, this can cause problems.
When we shut ourselves off from everyone it is easy to sort of fall into a pit. Without input from others our thoughts may become off balanced and very clouded. If we withdraw because we are tense, our tension may only build causing all kinds of problems mentally and physically.
We seem to need others to help keep us balanced by offering differing views to us. Being in relationship with others can also provide a tension release valve by allowing us to express ourselves. Having someone who will really listen to us can be very important and beneficial to us. Being in relationships with others can help keep us balanced and healthy.
Of course, the relationship itself needs to be balanced, we can't constantly dump all of our stuff on someone and not listen to them or offer support for them. We also can't always be the dumping station for others, we need and deserve a relief valve where we can relieve our tension by dumping stuff too.
It seems when the pressure of the world gets to be too much, retreating and take a few steps back is a wise choice, but stepping too far back and totally withdrawing can be detrimental to our mental health and well being.
Even solitary, introverts need outside contact and relationships to help keep them healthy.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
What's In A Word?
I was just reviewing some of my old writings and questioning my use of the word illness. Perhaps instead of the word illness when writing I should use the word disease.
The thoughts and feelings I felt by my own use of the word illness caused me to look up the words illness and disease.
The definition for illness is:
wickedness, unpleasantness, an unhealthy condition of the body or mind.
The definition for disease is:
a condition of the living animal or plant body or one of its parts that impairs normal functioning and is typically manifested by distinguishing signs and symptoms.
Think about this, if we say that we are ill, we are in a sense saying that we are wicked and unpleasant, that our body and mind are in an unhealthy condition. We may feel unhealthy and unpleasant, but we don't want to label ourselves in that way and form ourselves around that thought do we? How did having a physical symptom of some kind become related to being wicked?
When we use the word illness we refer to ourselves as being ill, but when we use the word disease we do not refer to ourselves as the disease do we? How interesting is that.
The word illness seems to focus on our actual body as somehow flawed.
The word disease seems to focus more on the function of our body being impaired.
What if what we experience in our body is not illness/wickedness, but instead disease/impairment of function. Our body is in a state of dis-ease because for some reason our "normal" functioning has been impaired in some way.
Perhaps this can even apply to the condition of our world. Our world is feeling a lot of pain and suffering because it is in a state of dis-ease; the way it was intended to function is somehow being impaired.
What do we need to do to find our source of impairment and relieve our dis-ease bringing us back into a state of comfort,ease and normal functioning?
Could it be that we need to take a close look at the distinguishing signs and symptoms of each situation and compare them all to see where the root cause of the impairment or malfunction lies so that we can regain proper function?
Is it possible that there is a common thread running through all cases of disease with our bodies and the world, we just have to look closely enough and make comparisons to find them? What was added or is missing that is creating the impairments and malfunctions?
Isn't it interesting how just studying the use of one word can cause us to focus on so many details and form many questions? After all, it's just a word, a label that we use to describe someone or something. Does it really matter if we say illness or disease or does it matter more that we focus on finding the root cause of the condition. I wonder...
The thoughts and feelings I felt by my own use of the word illness caused me to look up the words illness and disease.
The definition for illness is:
wickedness, unpleasantness, an unhealthy condition of the body or mind.
The definition for disease is:
a condition of the living animal or plant body or one of its parts that impairs normal functioning and is typically manifested by distinguishing signs and symptoms.
Think about this, if we say that we are ill, we are in a sense saying that we are wicked and unpleasant, that our body and mind are in an unhealthy condition. We may feel unhealthy and unpleasant, but we don't want to label ourselves in that way and form ourselves around that thought do we? How did having a physical symptom of some kind become related to being wicked?
When we use the word illness we refer to ourselves as being ill, but when we use the word disease we do not refer to ourselves as the disease do we? How interesting is that.
The word illness seems to focus on our actual body as somehow flawed.
The word disease seems to focus more on the function of our body being impaired.
What if what we experience in our body is not illness/wickedness, but instead disease/impairment of function. Our body is in a state of dis-ease because for some reason our "normal" functioning has been impaired in some way.
Perhaps this can even apply to the condition of our world. Our world is feeling a lot of pain and suffering because it is in a state of dis-ease; the way it was intended to function is somehow being impaired.
What do we need to do to find our source of impairment and relieve our dis-ease bringing us back into a state of comfort,ease and normal functioning?
Could it be that we need to take a close look at the distinguishing signs and symptoms of each situation and compare them all to see where the root cause of the impairment or malfunction lies so that we can regain proper function?
Is it possible that there is a common thread running through all cases of disease with our bodies and the world, we just have to look closely enough and make comparisons to find them? What was added or is missing that is creating the impairments and malfunctions?
Isn't it interesting how just studying the use of one word can cause us to focus on so many details and form many questions? After all, it's just a word, a label that we use to describe someone or something. Does it really matter if we say illness or disease or does it matter more that we focus on finding the root cause of the condition. I wonder...
Thursday, February 2, 2012
No Doubt About It
Old habits are hard to break, but if we are persistent we can break them and replace them with new behaviors. At least that is what we are told, but if we are stuck in negativity and fear, we might doubt it and that makes it very difficult to change anything.
Finding a way to stop the endless stream of self talk that tells us we are unworthy, useless, unqualified, stupid, lazy, crazy, unlovable,(the list could be endless) is not always easy. First of all we may be stuck in doubt, which tells us nothing can work, which causes us to not even try, which basically gets us no where which creates a whole bunch of more negative thoughts. OR we may be stuck in fear, which tells us change is bad and no one can be trusted and life is ugly and unfair and horrible and cruel and no one understand us and everyone will judge us so we should hide and be afraid to really live.
It might not be easy, but the first step out of negativity is to want to stop being negative and filled with doubt and fear. We may be so used to being that way we can't even imagine life any other way or we may be afraid of life any other way. But if we take that step and decide to try something different it can lead to a much happier way of living and a more peaceful life.
The trick is to retrain our minds, to catch ourselves when we think negative thoughts and refocus on something else. We can't beat ourselves up about the thoughts, but be aware of them and observe them and then set them aside and replace them with something else. Let go of your fear and doubt and give it a try for a few days.
Instead of focusing on all that is wrong with things in your world or yourself or others, focus on what is right. Whether you believe it or not, there is something right about everything. For instance, that crabby neighbor you have to deal with may be a pain in the butt, but they are teaching you to be patient and kind even when someone is being rude. What a great lesson...thank you crabby neighbor. That husband that threw his dirty socks all over the place was teaching you your house doesn't have to be spotless. What a great lesson...thank you sloppy husband. That broken ankle made you slow down and take the time to really look at your life and yourself for several weeks, it showed you the importance of receiving help from others. What a great lesson...thank you broken ankle.
We have to want to look for the positive, we have to learn to look for the positive, we have to let go of fear and be persistent and not give up. Yes we will stumble, yes we will have days where we feel there is nothing positive about anything. No one expects us to pretend everything is perfect and slap a happy smile on our face all the time, that would just be hiding behind a mask of fake sunshine, but if we never look for the positives, we'll never see them.
Of course, we don't really HAVE to do any of this. We can stay exactly as we are. That is our choice. No doubt about it, we always have choices.
Finding a way to stop the endless stream of self talk that tells us we are unworthy, useless, unqualified, stupid, lazy, crazy, unlovable,(the list could be endless) is not always easy. First of all we may be stuck in doubt, which tells us nothing can work, which causes us to not even try, which basically gets us no where which creates a whole bunch of more negative thoughts. OR we may be stuck in fear, which tells us change is bad and no one can be trusted and life is ugly and unfair and horrible and cruel and no one understand us and everyone will judge us so we should hide and be afraid to really live.
It might not be easy, but the first step out of negativity is to want to stop being negative and filled with doubt and fear. We may be so used to being that way we can't even imagine life any other way or we may be afraid of life any other way. But if we take that step and decide to try something different it can lead to a much happier way of living and a more peaceful life.
The trick is to retrain our minds, to catch ourselves when we think negative thoughts and refocus on something else. We can't beat ourselves up about the thoughts, but be aware of them and observe them and then set them aside and replace them with something else. Let go of your fear and doubt and give it a try for a few days.
Instead of focusing on all that is wrong with things in your world or yourself or others, focus on what is right. Whether you believe it or not, there is something right about everything. For instance, that crabby neighbor you have to deal with may be a pain in the butt, but they are teaching you to be patient and kind even when someone is being rude. What a great lesson...thank you crabby neighbor. That husband that threw his dirty socks all over the place was teaching you your house doesn't have to be spotless. What a great lesson...thank you sloppy husband. That broken ankle made you slow down and take the time to really look at your life and yourself for several weeks, it showed you the importance of receiving help from others. What a great lesson...thank you broken ankle.
We have to want to look for the positive, we have to learn to look for the positive, we have to let go of fear and be persistent and not give up. Yes we will stumble, yes we will have days where we feel there is nothing positive about anything. No one expects us to pretend everything is perfect and slap a happy smile on our face all the time, that would just be hiding behind a mask of fake sunshine, but if we never look for the positives, we'll never see them.
Of course, we don't really HAVE to do any of this. We can stay exactly as we are. That is our choice. No doubt about it, we always have choices.
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