Sometimes life gets really difficult and it's hard to see any beauty or joy in anything around us. It can seem as if we make it through one difficult situation just to be hit with another and another or sometimes they even pile up all at the same time. It can seem almost as if no matter what we do life just keeps knocking us down. How do we handle such difficult times?
It's easy when we go through times like this to get really down and depressed and to wallow in pity for ourselves and our situation, but what is this going to accomplish? Will we feel better if we continually focus on all that is "wrong" or "bad" in our lives? How will constantly focusing on our struggles, disappointments and frustrations effect our lives? Some say whatever our mind is focused on is what is drawn into our life, so what do you think happens if we constantly focus on what has gone wrong, what is wrong and what could go wrong in our lives?
I understand that a lot of people think positive thinking is just a load of new age babble, but I've personally seen it help turn lives around. Do bad things stop happening and lives become fairy tale like immediately? No, probably not, but the way we deal with the things that happen, the way we react to the people around us and our world changes and it becomes easier to be in the world and WE become easier to be around, which helps those around us feel less stress and in turn creates a happier atmosphere for everybody.
Turning around from being a negative person to being a person with a positive point of view is not always easy, but it can create changes in our world that we never imagined were possible. It might be very difficult at first, but like with all things, the more we practice, the easier it becomes.
First we have to have the desire to be different in the world. We have to decide that we want to try living in a different way. Then we have to set the intention to be different. At night before we go to bed we can think, tomorrow will be a good day, I am going to be positive and happy. In the morning before we get out of bed we can think, today is going to be a good day, I am going to be positive and loving to everyone. It's as easy as that to set our intention. Then we have to put our intention into action by getting our thoughts under control and changing our negative point of view. If a negative thought pops up, we simply allow ourselves to think it and then let it go and look for a positive thought to counter act and replace it. For example: Uggg it's rainy again today, but the rain waters the flowers and helps cleanse the air, at least I have a nice warm dry house to be in. It might take awhile to get used to doing this and we might even find ourselves laughing at the interesting or lame positive point of views we come up with, this is good, laughter is always good!
Most importantly we have to be gentle with ourselves and not get upset if we have difficulty while learning to do this. We need to remember to be positive and loving towards ourselves! If our mind wants to go on a rampage of negative thinking it is very helpful to simply say STOP and refocus our thoughts on something else. Beating ourselves up about it will serve no purpose.
We also need to remember to not get discouraged if we don't see any immediate changes in our world or if the people around us have a strong reaction to the "new" us. It's a good idea to be patient and gentle with everyone, including ourselves, as we practice our positive thinking and way of looking at our world. We have to understand that "bad" things will probably still happen, but we will be able to handle them better and work our way through them with less difficulty. Perhaps as we work our way more gracefully through each situation we will even begin to see that life isn't so bad and eventually life will become not so bad! How wonderful would that be?
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